Ending Men's Violence

Highlights of the Colorado Men Against Domestic Violence NOMAS Roundtable

On Saturday, January 16th representatives from fatherhood programs, domestic violence victim services providers, domestic violence offender treatment programs and others gathered to hear and discuss issues related to encouraging men to take a stand against domestic violence and build positive relationships. Featured at the roundtable were members of the National Organization of Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) Leadership Council.

Barry Goldstein

BARRY GOLDSTEIN, attorney, teacher, author and advocate for women abused by their partner (and too often the courts) has written a book for women seeking to leave their abusers and for their friends, family, supporters and advocates. SCARED TO LEAVE AFRAID TO STAY Paths From Family Violence to Safety tells the story of ten women as they left their abusers seeking a better life.

Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody: Legal Strategies and Policy Issues

 For many years protective mothers have complained that unfair custody courts are taking their children and forcing the children to live with abusive fathers. These concerns have now been confirmed by a definitive new book, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY co-edited by Dr. Mo Therese Hannah and Barry Goldstein.

Not a Two-Way street: Men are NOT the victims of what is meant by Domestic Violence and Abuse

Just as some mental problems are more prevalent among women (e.g. depression) or men (e.g. alcoholism); many crimes are very, very highly correlated with gender. Men commit near 100% of forcible rapes, 90% of murders, etc. It is a simple fact that men are usually larger and physically stronger than their female partners.

Domestic Violence or Abuse are Not a "Mental Health Issues"

People who burn down buildings, or set off bombs, or murder other people, may arguably have mental "problems," and no doubt "need help," but society does not view serious crimes as primarily "mental health" issues; it addresses them with prison terms, not with counseling groups or psychotherapy.

Domestic abuse and even violence however have long been viewed more ambivalently by western society.

Batterer Programs may be more Harmful than Beneficial

When an abusive man is required by a Judge to attend a weekly local group "for batterers" for six months or a year, his partner and everyone who knows the situation is likely to breath a "Whew!" of relief, and think that now he is "getting the help he needs." It is a sad reality that, (self-serving claims and anecdotal stories to the contrary), there is no solid empirical evidence that any such groups have in fact ever significantly reduced or even altered the incidence of violence.

NOMAS Endorses the NY Model for Batterer Programs

After years of exploring a wide range of batterer program models, the National Council of NOMAS has given its full support to the New York Model for Batterer Programs (www.nymbp.org). This model was determined to be most in keeping with NOMAS principles and beliefs about sexism, domestic violence and batterer programs.

Batterer programs, created in the mid 70's, were originally designed to "treat" offenders.

What Batterer Programs Can Do Demonstrably and Reliably with All Men Ordered by the Courts

By Phyllis B. Frank, , Director, VCS Domestic Violence Program for Men

Batterer programs often confound even those who work closely with them.  Courts, probation, prosecution, parole, advocates, and the public understandably have unfulfilled hopes about what batterer programs can accomplish.  After thirty years of consistent trial, error and more trial, the NY Model for Batterer Programs has devised a simple list of what we know we can accomplish and measure and what we cannot be certain we can accomplish.
 
Batterer Programs Can Clearly, Easily and Certainly .

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